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A Real Life Check-Up

Posted on 04/25/17 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

docquestionWe all know how important regular health exams and doctor visits are for the maintenance of our physical well-being. They detect problems we can’t see and provide solutions we don’t have.

But what about the rest of your life? Is it healthy? Is your Real Life the best it can be? What if there are problems you’re not aware of that could harm your heart, soul, mind or strength?  What if your Real Life could be even better than you ever imagined?

Over the next several weeks I will be providing you with a list of questions (just a few at a time, although today’s is the longest) to help you determine the health of your life.  These questions will address if you are you living wholly, with a balance in all the areas of your life, fully, in complete confidence according to your God-given design, abundantly, believing all things are possible through Christ, and intentionally, moving forward according to God’s vision for you.

Remember this promise, “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”   (John 10:10)  Don’t settle for anything less than full.



Take the Real.Life.Check-Up and see how you are doing.


Personal Growth.

  1. I know who I am and what my strengths are.
  2. I feel confident, competent, and capable.
  3. I have weekly, monthly, and yearly goals that I’m accomplishing.
  4. I don’t speak to myself critically.
  5. I am fulfilling my mission and purpose in life.
  6. I am neither jealous or resentful (even in my private thoughts).
  7. I follow through and complete my tasks.
  8. I love who I am becoming.
  9. I have creative outlets to express myself.
  10. I live proactively rather than reactively.
  11. I am happy with the way I manage my time.
  12. I feel joyful and optimistic about the future.
  13. I am able to attend to what is important even when the urgent pressures me.


If you answered Yes to all 13 questions, you are living the abundant life!

If you answered Yes to 9-12 questions, you are living a full life but not all of your potential has been realized.

If you answered Yes to 5-8 questions, you are surviving more than thriving.

If you answered Yes to 0-4 questions, God has so much more to offer you.


How did you do?

Life Coaching offers Real Life solutions that can change every No into a Yes.   To find out more, click here to sign up for your free 30 minute consultation.



Three New Parenting Talks for 2017

Posted on 04/12/17 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Hey MOPS and MOPSNext Moms!


I’ve got three new parenting talks for your groups.


  1.  Three Life Coaching Tools for Moms:

Do you feel overwhelmed by the seemingly endless needs of your family?  Are you tired and depleted wondering how you are going to get it all done?  Do you ever feel resentful, like you are doing all the work, and you have no choice but to make it happen? Or do you feel insecure sometimes thinking that you are not good enough or something is wrong with you?  Not to worry–help is on the way–Dale will teach you about three specific life coaching tools to help each mom find balance, make wise decisions, and live confidently.

  1.  How to Raise Authentic, Responsible, and Capable Kids

From her experience as a mother to four girls and as a professional life coach, Dale will teach you the necessary elements you need to know to raise children who are authentic rather than fake, responsible rather than immature, and capable believing deep down that all things really are possible.

 3.  Overcoming Impatience as a Mom

We all lose patience with our children, but how do you stop reacting in anger and start responding in truth?  Dale explains how to deal with our emotional brains that trigger us to react defensively and usually keep us stuck in impatience.  She shows us how to engage our thinking brains to look at the reasons behind our impatience and to guide us to rational, loving parenting solutions.


I’d love to speak to your group!

If you’d like to book one of these new parenting talks or any of my classic messages for moms ( contact me here ( for rates and availability.


Please Listen to those Nudges from God

Posted on 02/06/17 by Dale Wilsher 5 Comments

Saturday night at church was rough.

I’ve been riding the edge of some challenging thoughts and circumstances for some time now, wondering where God was in the midst of my struggles, but on Saturday night I fell in.  I was overwhelmed by fear, anger, and hurt (all the fun emotions) and could not stop crying.  I’ve never been so thankful for the dim lighting in there.  I made it through the closing song and on my way out a dear woman, whom I’ve never met before, hands me her program.  She had been sitting behind me and must have seen me losing it.  She said, “God wanted me to give you this.”  I forced a smile, thanked her, and kept walking to the car.  I didn’t want to start crying again and you know how it is, if someone is nice to you, you can lose it even more.  I put the note in my purse and tried to pretend like I was fine.  At least until I got out of the building.

The rest of the evening was hard too.  I cried.  I journaled.  I yelled at God in my head.  I asked for understanding, for clarity, and for help. I got nothing, so finally I fell asleep.

The next day I realized that I had been a teensy bit hormonal, explaining the magnitude of my emotions, but I still wanted answers, none of which came in my sleep.  It was then that I remembered the note.  I ran downstairs, rifled through my purse and pulled out that mysterious piece of paper, hoping for something, anything to encourage me.



Here is what it said:

“I felt the Lord prompting me to tell you, for encouragement, that you can trust Him.  He’s heard your prayers and seen your tears.  The prayers will be answered.  Keep persevering and praying.  Love, Jess”

Guess what.  I started to cry all over again.  But these were good tears.  These were I-feel-loved, I-feel-seen, I-feel-heard tears.  I had received a love note from God, written specifically for me, all because this precious woman felt a nudge from God and acted on it.


How many times do we get nudges from God to say something, do something or write something?  If you are like me, it probably doesn’t happen all the time, but sometimes it does.  On a good day, I risk the potential embarrassment of looking like a nut, and I obey.  Other times, I ignore it and the urge goes away.

Do you know how incredibly thankful I am that Jess acted instead of ignored God’s prompting?

Do you know what a difference her obedience has made it my heart?

Do you know how much my faith has been strengthened so I can continue to persevere in prayer?

A lot.

Thank you Jess.  Thank you so very much.


When was the last time you were nudged by God?  Did you obey or ignore it?  Honest answers are welcome.



Good News When You Are Not Ready for Christmas

Posted on 12/23/16 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Tomorrow is Christmas Eve.
Time is running out.

So the big question is:

Have you completed everything on your Christmas to-do list? 


Most years for me, the answer is “almost” and then I run around like crazy trying to tie up all the loose ends to make sure the Christmas spirit is palpable at my house. Some years I make it but then I am completely exhausted. Other years, like the last few, I don’t quite get everything done and end up feeling, shall we say, incomplete.

And I worry that I’m letting my children down by not doing enough to celebrate the season. I worry that I’m letting God down by not glorifying Him enough. I even feel like I’m letting the sweet baby Jesus down because there is always more I could do to herald His coming.

Do you ever feel like that? Like you’ve not done enough at Christmas time?

Keep reading for the Good News:

Good News When You’re not Ready for Christmas




Jesus in Disguise

Posted on 12/19/16 by Dale Wilsher 1 Comment

There is a man at my church, a very nice man, who doesn’t recognize me half the time. It’s become a bit comical because I know him pretty well. I know his lovely wife. I know his kids too. And whenever I don’t wear makeup to church, he walks right past me as if I’m in disguise. I’ll say “Hi!” and he’ll look at me like I’m a stranger until I remind him of my first name.


There are two reasons for this, I think:

  1. He doesn’t recognize me because I don’t fit his expectations. When people get older, bigger, smaller or made over or under, in my case, they no longer match the mental picture we have of them.
  2. He might have Prosopagnosia, also known as face blindness. If that’s really a thing. But since it’s on the internet, it must be real, right?


Face blindness reminds me of Simeon, an important player in the Christmas story, but for the opposite reason. You see, Simeon recognized Jesus when others did not.


The Jews back then were unhappy. They hadn’t heard from God for 400 years. They felt alone and abandoned, tyrannized under Roman oppression. They couldn’t wait for the Big Bad Messiah to ride in, kicking butt and taking names (Roman ones), and rescue them from their dire circumstances. In their minds the Messiah would be full grown, not to mention a great military leader who would restore Jerusalem, rebuild the Temple, and rule over the world in strength and power.


  • The Jews expected a big Messiah therefore they missed God in the form of a little baby.
  • The Jews expected a strong Messiah therefore they missed the fragile way He entered the world.
  • The Jews expected a visible Messiah so they missed God’s quiet entrance through an unknown woman.


But Simeon was given eyes to see God and therefore recognized Jesus.

In the temple that day when “Mary and Joseph took him to Jerusalem to present him to the Lord,” (Luke 2:22) Simeon recognized Jesus as the Lord’s Christ, took him in his arms (we hope with permission from the parents) and praised God saying,


“Sovereign Lord, as you have promised,

    you may now dismiss[a] your servant in peace.

For my eyes have seen your salvation,

    which you have prepared in the sight of all nations:

a light for revelation to the Gentiles,

 and the glory of your people Israel.” Luke 2:29-32


This year I want to be like Simeon and not the Jews.

I want to see Jesus in His Season.

So I will focus on three things that Simeon saw:  salvation, light, and glory.


I want to remember that Advent is about salvation, not vacation or even celebration. While I enjoy the parties and the time off with my kiddos, I will be blinded to Jesus if I don’t make salvation the focus. I’m praying for the helmet of salvation to guard our thoughts and minds and for the offer of salvation to be accepted by those who haven’t yet done so.


Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” Acts 4:12


I want every light that twinkles on my neighbor’s houses (since I couldn’t get around to it this year) to remind me of the light that Jesus offers to us all. I want to see the light that leads us me out of the darkness of my sin, weaknesses and wounds and pray for all those around me to see Him too.


“I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” Jesus 8:12


Finally I want to make sure my mental picture of Jesus matches with the glory of who He really is. I want to make sure I don’t make Him too small, too nice, or too much like me, but instead I want to recognize Jesus in all His forms (baby, savior, and king) and see His glory all around me.


The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth. John 1:14



Merry Christmas!


How could you shift your focus to recognize Jesus this time of year?


Bringing the Christmas Story Alive

Posted on 11/30/16 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

untitled-2-3This is our nativity scene this year. I know. It looks a bit bleak, doesn’t it?

No, my toddlers didn’t eat baby Jesus or break the head off the magi, although that’s not out of the realm of possibilities. We did this on purpose. And you can too…to bring the Christmas story alive for your whole family.

Read more to find out how:

Bringing the Christmas Story Alive

Dontcha Love a Silent Auction?

Posted on 11/07/16 by Dale Wilsher No Comments
If you are looking for a fun event with yummy food, great auction items and an inspiring message, join us at Rockland Community Church, 17 S Mt Vernon Country Club Rd, Golden, CO:
Hello friends and neighbors! 
We welcome you all to our 5th Annual Rockland MOPS Silent Auction / Brunch.  This will be held on Wednesday, November 16th from 9:15 am to 12:00 noon.
Tickets are $20 if purchased by 11/11/16, or $25 at the door.  If you can please let us know by this Friday, 11/11 if you will make it, that would really help in getting the right amount of food there.  
We will feature delicious food from Marion’s of Idaho Springs and entertaining / informative speaking from Dale Wilsher. Dale’s own courageous faith journey has taken her beyond the pride of good-girl behavior, unhealthy emotional patterns and difficult family dynamics. The result? She ‘gets’ it, and connects with women through vulnerability and humor. And without all the pretense, she goes to the core of what women really feel. No pretty packaging. No performing. No perfection. Just a real encounter with a loving, grace-filled, come-as-you-are God. And the result? Women are set free. Free from guilt and expectations.
We also have our raffle and silent auction which includes Avalanche hockey tickets, Arapahoe Basin / WinterPark ski tickets, three nights at a VRBO near Steamboat Springs, restaurant gift certificates, museum & zoo tickets, Broncos items, golf / cart fees at multiple golf courses, a Strider bike, spa treatment certificates, gift baskets from Ski Country Antiques, Rustic Point, Dogma and much, much more!  You will be able to pay for your purchases with cash, check, or by PayPal.  We truly appreciate your support.
There are three ways to purchase tickets to the event.
1) Copy and paste the url below to pay by credit card, entering the total amount for the number of tickets you are purchasing.  Feel free to add any information you think we may need in the notes section.
2) Email to make arrangements to pay by cash or check.
3) Pay at the door – $25.
Please invite a friend or family member to join you for a fun morning of good food, fun, & getting a start on Christmas shopping!
Childcare is provided too!  Please let us know if you will be in need of childcare.
Thank you for your generous support!
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3 Three Tips for Families Who DO Chores

Posted on 10/26/16 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

unknown-2Last month I wrote about the “whys” behind implementing chores for your children, in the hope that I might motivate, encourage or simply remind you of the benefits of family responsibility, especially when it all seems like an uphill battle. On the days when no one wants to do their chores, when I seem to be working harder to train them to do their chores than they are at doing them, when I can’t come up with good chores for them to do–that is when I need to be reminded as to why I’m doing this. I thought that might help you too.

There are three more tips I want to offer that will help you persevere and be blessed by family chores:

Check out the tips at



A Woman’s Guide on How to Abide

Posted on 10/11/16 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

abide_logoWow!  What an honor to be the speaker at Family in Christ women’s retreat at the beautiful Mount Vernon Country Club in Golden.


We spent the entire day talking about what I consider to be one of the most important spiritual disciplines and the foundation of our relationship with God, abiding.

Abiding is “to keep up a habit of constant close communion with Him-to be always leaning on Him, resting in Him, pouring out our hearts to Him, and using Him as our foundation of life and strength, as our chief companion and very best friend.”

Based on scripture in John 15, Matthew 11 and Psalm 46 we looked at the reasons we don’t abide (such as our expectation that God won’t speak to us or our desire to life for God instead of with God, plus many more.) We learned how to talk to God and how to hear His voice.  We learned how to ask God questions that He longs to answer.  We looked at the striving in our lives that wears us out and keeps us from abiding.  We learned how to cease striving and yoke to Jesus.  We learned about Christian mindfulness and abiding prayer, Lectio Davina.


Here’s a little quiz to test your own abiding:

  • Do you wake up and say “Good Morning” to Him or do you just think about Him or talk about Him but ignore His presence?
  • Do you read your Bible with Him expecting Him to explain it to you instead of figuring it our for yourself?
  • Do you wash the dishes with God?
  • Do you walk the dog with God?
  • Do you sing in the car with God?
  • Do you balance your checkbook with God?
  • Do you rest with God?

If you want to learn more about abiding and practical ideas for making Jesus relevant to every area of your life, you can buy the 2 CD collection ($15) of the retreat:  Abide in His Words & Abide in His Rest.  Email me at to order and use the PayPal button on my website to pay.

If your church or group is looking for a speaker for your next event, I’d love to share about this important topic, and how you can encourage and challenge your women to abide in Christ.

Thanks Family in Christ!  It was a wonderful day to see God at work in lives of His women!



4 Reasons Why Your Child Needs to do Chores

Posted on 09/28/16 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

1-2-120-25-explorepahistory-a0a5x9-a_349-1Someone once asked me if my children did chores. I answered with an enthusiastic Yes! followed by a list of their household responsibilities. As I shared, my inquirer’s eyes grew wider and seemingly more troubled, “Sheesh, you guys are like farmers, milking the cows and feeding the chickens.” I know. And we don’t even have a farm. I took it as a compliment.

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