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Know a Mom Going Back to Work?

Posted on August 14, 2017 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Do you know a mom who wants or needs to go back to work either part-time or full-time AND isn’t quite sure where to start?

Could that mom be you?

No matter what the circumstances or reasons behind your decision, the

Off To Work Moms Coaching Program may be just what you need.

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Going back to work is often a time of confusion, insecurity and difficulty.  We wonder, Am I qualified to do anything?  What types of skills do I have?  What’s the right job for me and my family?  Where do I even begin?  With a little help and direction, finding the right job can be exciting, intentional, and empowering.  So let’s get you started!

In this six session group coaching program you’ll learn about:

  • The marketable skills you already possess and how to leverage them to find meaningful work.
  • The jobs that maximize your strengths and allow you to contribute your best to the world.
  • Your unique personality type, your signature strengths, and the ideal environments in which to work.
  • Your personal values and how to align them with your work.
  • Your vision, mission and purpose and how they can direct your path.
  • Your personal network and how the people you already know can help you land a great job.

The Off to Work Moms Coaching Program consists of six group coaching sessions, 90 minutes in length, in a conference call format starting Monday 9/25/17 1:00-2:30pm MST and ending Monday 12/4/17.  The group will meet every other week and hold no more than 6-8 participants. Each participant will receive a DISC personality assessment report, two 45 minute individual coaching sessions, six 90 minute group sessions, a private FB group, tools, handouts and homework to help you get off to work.  The total cost is $499 from now until August 31.  September 1 the cost will rise to $569.

Before you assume that your only choices are to do daycare, work at your child’s school, or become the next barista (because we’ve heard about those benefits), take a little time to understand your design, your qualifications, and all the opportunities out there.  Tell your friends.  Spread the word.

You have been Uniquely Designed for Ultimate Impact!  Let’s get you Off To Work!

To reserve your spot and receive the Early Bird Discount, fill out the registration form here:

http://dalewilsher.com/dale/off-to-work-moms-registration/

Dale will contact you via email and get you signed up and ready to start.

 

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Whatcha Doing on Friday?

Posted on June 14, 2017 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Hi everyone!

If you are free this Friday, June 16, join me on Channelmom radio as we talk about understanding the personality types of our children.

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This will be great information for you if you

  • sometimes wonder what makes your child tick
  • struggle to understand your child
  • get triggered by their behaviors
  • are curious to know why they are so different from you
  • desperately need to find a way to communicate and connect with your child

After an overview of all types, we will focus this episode on our little extroverts.

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Listen in this Friday from 1:00-1:30pm on the radio (94.7 FM), online (94.7 The Word Online) or watch us on FB Live and type your personality questions into the comment bar.  ChannelMom’s page on Facebook is:  https://www.facebook.com/ChannelMom/

 

As an extra bonus…

There will be 2 free Tip Sheets on my website for you to download, one for parents of introverts and one for parents of extroverts.

Don’t miss out!

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Real.Life Check Up: Health

Posted on May 31, 2017 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

IMG_2390Yesterday I ran the Bolder Boulder, a 10K race, that winds through the streets of Boulder, Colorado, while bands play, belly-dancers perform, and neighbors cheer. It’s an absolute blast. And, even more important for an accomplishment-driven woman like me (I’m a Doer and a D on the DISC), it was one of my 2017 health goals.

Do you have health goals for this year? If so, have you written them down? And if you did that, do you remember where you put them?

It’s not enough to just think about your goals. Thinking engages the right hemisphere of your brain but writing engages the left hemisphere of your brain, the side that generates logic and planning.

If you want to turn your desires into reality, write down your goals. The tyranny of urgent requests from your children, your boss, and your bills will always seek to crowd out the important things in life. Don’t let them. Write your goals down.

Research show that mere act of writing down your goals increases the likelihood of achieving them by 35-70% (depending on which study you read). Those are big numbers. If you continue to review your goals each month and even each week AND rewrite them AND display them on your refrigerator, bathroom mirror or office wall, you will start to live according to your plans and not the plan of others.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

Take today’s Health Check Up Quiz. See how you score. Where you answer Yes, congratulate yourself for areas that you’ve already established good habits. Where you answer No, turn the statements in Health Goals for 2017.

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Health

  • I wake energized, and rested, and on time.
  • I have an my exercise routine in which I move for at least 30 minutes, 3x/week.
  • I limit my alcohol consumption and don’t rely on it for stress or problem relief.
  • I drink plenty of water each day.
  • I am pleased with my food choices. They fuel me for the day.
  • My immune system is strong. I don’t get sick more than 1-2x/year.
  • I make adequate time for play and rest.
  • I know what activities are fun and restful for me.
  • I am within 10 pounds of my goal weight.
  • I take good care of myself.
  • I’m addressing all my health concerns with a medical professional.

If you answered Yes to all 11 questions, you are enjoying abundant physical health!

If you answered Yes to 7-10 questions, your life is full and whole but not all of your health potential has been realized.

If you answered Yes to 4-6 questions, you are surviving more than thriving with your health.

If you answered Yes to 0-3 questions, God has so much more health to offer you.

 

What health goals are you going to establish today?

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Real.Life Check-Up: WORK

Posted on May 16, 2017 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Are you living wholly, fully, abundantly, and intentionally?

That is our question.  It’s a big one, with high standards, and wide borders.  And it’s important since this is the only life we’ve got.

In the last two posts, we’ve looked at whole, full, abundant, and intentional living in two big areas:  personal growth and relationships.

Today we will look at work.

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Are you living large in your area of service, whether you get paid or not?  Do you consider your work a job or a career? What if you could take that up a notch and think of your work as your calling?  Now, that’s something to shoot for.

60% of Christians have NO idea about their calling.  Do you know yours?

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Take this short quiz to determine how healthy you are with work:

  • I love my work.
  • My job is a great fit for me.
  • 80% of who I am lines up with 80% of what I do.
  • My income is sufficient for my needs.
  • Daily work tasks have significance because I can tie them to my purpose.
  • My work allows me to contribute my strengths to others.
  • I have a good work/life balance.
  • I see opportunities for growth and promotion.
  • I’m proud of the work I’m accomplishing.

If you answered Yes to all 9 questions, you are enjoying abundant work!

If you answered Yes to 6-8 questions, your work is full and whole but not all of your potential has been realized.

If you answered Yes to 3-5 questions, you are surviving more than thriving at work.

If you answered Yes to 0-2 questions, God has so much more to offer you through work.

 

In a 2003 study of the American workforce, only 50.7% of respondents said they’re satisfied with their current jobs.  That number had actually gone down 15% from a study just 10 years prior.

If this describes your feelings, remember God designed you for abundant work.  He has given you a calling.  You have been wired with amazing strengths to reflect a slice of His image in your home and in the world.  He wants you to use them, contribute them, and let them bless others.

If you don’t know what your signature strengths are, start by taking a DISC personality test.  Ask me how.

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Spending Time on the Skinny Branches

Posted on May 12, 2017 by Dale Wilsher 2 Comments

In Morocco the goats are crazy.  Or maybe I should say motivated.  They are so into the the fruit of the argan tree that they will risk life and limb to get a taste.  Just look at them.

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At first I thought they were crazy, but now I think they are AWESOME.  They absolutely inspire me.

I’ve recently been introduced to the term skinny branches.  Have you heard that before?  Skinny branches refer to the places in our lives that we don’t feel secure.  The places that make us feel uncomfortable.  The places that scare the life out of us.

Skinny branches are the places of greatest risk.

And these crazy goats regularly head out on the skinny branches, and I want to too.

Transitioning from a stay-at-home mom to a full-time coach/speaker has required a lot of courage, energy, and hard work.  And it’s paid off.  I’m doing it, and some days I think I’m doing it pretty well.  But as I look to take my business to the next level, I’m going to have get out on some skinny branches meeting new people, cold-calling businesses, and asking for what I want.  And I’m going to have to do it everyday which isn’t easy.

You see most of us, by nature, like to play it safe.  We like our comfort zones and the security they provide.  We like things that are familiar and certain, keeping our blood pressure and stress levels low.  We like to know what to expect by maintaining a cozy status quo.  Me too.

But I also want to grow.  I want to live wholly, fully, abundantly, and intentionally.  I want to get to the end of my life and have no regrets.  I want to see just how big God is and what He can do through me.  That means that I must embrace a practice of living on the skinny branches.

How about you?

Do you need to have a hard conversation?  Do you need to learn something new?  Do you need to try something you’ve never done before?  Do you need to set a boundary?  Do you need to take action?

Then join me on the skinny branches, the place that heightens our awareness of Jesus and gives us eyes to see Him.  Just as Jesus called Peter to walk out onto the waves with Him (Matthew 14:24-32), He’s calling you to join Him on the skinny branches.  We are never out there on our own.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do something everyday that scares you” because you are held and supported by the Son of God.

What skinny branch will you go out on today?

 

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Real.Life.Relationship Check-Up

Posted on May 1, 2017 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

How’d you score on last week’s Personal Growth quiz? Take it here, if you haven’t already.

To be honest, most of us don’t score very high.  In a world that is chaotic, confusing, and overwhelming, it’s not easy to live intentionally and with great clarity.  Not many of know what our strengths are although we are certain of our weaknesses.  I have yet to meet a person that is free from their inner critic voice.  And almost every one of my clients has wanted help understanding their mission and purpose.  Research shows that at least 60% of Christians don’t know their purpose or their calling.  In my experience that number is much higher.

If you are feeling brave and curious, check out the next section of the

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to determine the quality of your Relational life.

 

Friendships

  • I rarely over-apologize, share TMI, or people-please.
  • I don’t believe I need to be all things to all people.
  • My friendships are characterized by mutual respect, mutual sharing, and mutual need.
  • I am able to say NO easily.

Spouse/Significant Other

  • I feel fondness and admiration for my spouse.
  • My spouse and I are aware of and encourage each other’s strengths, needs, and values although they are different from our own.
  • We encourage each other’s emotional and spiritual growth.
  • We are growing closer everyday.

Children

  • I feel adequate, supported and equipped as a parent.
  • I have a vision for my children’s future.
  • I understand my children’s unique personality and emotional needs.

Family of Origin

  • I am at a healthy place with my family of origin.
  • I can and do honor my parents.
  • I have forgiven any past acts.
  • I don’t blame my family for my issues or problems today.

 

If you answered Yes to all 15 questions, you are living the abundant life!

If you answered Yes to 11-14 questions, you are living a full life but not all of your potential has been realized.

If you answered Yes to 6-10 questions, you are surviving more than thriving.

If you answered Yes to 0-5 questions, God has so much more to offer you.

 

A life that is whole, full, abundant, and intentional does not come without some work.  Without work, we drift.  DriftingThe 2nd law of thermodynamics states that entropy will increase over time.  That means that without intervention, our lives will drift into disorder.  Don’t let that happen to your life and the purposes that God has called you to.  You’ve been created to glorify Him as you reflect your slice of His image.

Get intentional.  If your score is not as high as you’d like, reach out for help to someone who can guide you to a better place.  Envision what you’d like to accomplish.  If you consider yourself a people-pleaser, spend time defining what you’d like to be instead.  Would you rather be a God-pleaser?  Make a choice to think of the possibilities instead of the past.  Your brain cannot look at the problem AND the solution at the same time, so get active and look toward your goal.

If you would like to find out how life coaching can help you with your personal or relational goals, complete this form for a free 30 minute phone session.

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A Real Life Check-Up

Posted on April 25, 2017 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

docquestionWe all know how important regular health exams and doctor visits are for the maintenance of our physical well-being. They detect problems we can’t see and provide solutions we don’t have.

But what about the rest of your life? Is it healthy? Is your Real Life the best it can be? What if there are problems you’re not aware of that could harm your heart, soul, mind or strength?  What if your Real Life could be even better than you ever imagined?

Over the next several weeks I will be providing you with a list of questions (just a few at a time, although today’s is the longest) to help you determine the health of your life.  These questions will address if you are you living wholly, with a balance in all the areas of your life, fully, in complete confidence according to your God-given design, abundantly, believing all things are possible through Christ, and intentionally, moving forward according to God’s vision for you.

Remember this promise, “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”   (John 10:10)  Don’t settle for anything less than full.

 

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Take the Real.Life.Check-Up and see how you are doing.

 

Personal Growth.

  1. I know who I am and what my strengths are.
  2. I feel confident, competent, and capable.
  3. I have weekly, monthly, and yearly goals that I’m accomplishing.
  4. I don’t speak to myself critically.
  5. I am fulfilling my mission and purpose in life.
  6. I am neither jealous or resentful (even in my private thoughts).
  7. I follow through and complete my tasks.
  8. I love who I am becoming.
  9. I have creative outlets to express myself.
  10. I live proactively rather than reactively.
  11. I am happy with the way I manage my time.
  12. I feel joyful and optimistic about the future.
  13. I am able to attend to what is important even when the urgent pressures me.

 

If you answered Yes to all 13 questions, you are living the abundant life!

If you answered Yes to 9-12 questions, you are living a full life but not all of your potential has been realized.

If you answered Yes to 5-8 questions, you are surviving more than thriving.

If you answered Yes to 0-4 questions, God has so much more to offer you.

 

How did you do?

Life Coaching offers Real Life solutions that can change every No into a Yes.   To find out more, click here http://dalewilsher.com/dale/initial-consultation-prep-form-2/ to sign up for your free 30 minute consultation.

 

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Three New Parenting Talks for 2017

Posted on April 12, 2017 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Hey MOPS and MOPSNext Moms!

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I’ve got three new parenting talks for your groups.

 

  1.  Three Life Coaching Tools for Moms:

Do you feel overwhelmed by the seemingly endless needs of your family?  Are you tired and depleted wondering how you are going to get it all done?  Do you ever feel resentful, like you are doing all the work, and you have no choice but to make it happen? Or do you feel insecure sometimes thinking that you are not good enough or something is wrong with you?  Not to worry–help is on the way–Dale will teach you about three specific life coaching tools to help each mom find balance, make wise decisions, and live confidently.

  1.  How to Raise Authentic, Responsible, and Capable Kids

From her experience as a mother to four girls and as a professional life coach, Dale will teach you the necessary elements you need to know to raise children who are authentic rather than fake, responsible rather than immature, and capable believing deep down that all things really are possible.

 3.  Overcoming Impatience as a Mom

We all lose patience with our children, but how do you stop reacting in anger and start responding in truth?  Dale explains how to deal with our emotional brains that trigger us to react defensively and usually keep us stuck in impatience.  She shows us how to engage our thinking brains to look at the reasons behind our impatience and to guide us to rational, loving parenting solutions.

 

I’d love to speak to your group!

If you’d like to book one of these new parenting talks or any of my classic messages for moms (http://dalewilsher.com/dale/speaking/) contact me here (http://dalewilsher.com/dale/contact/) for rates and availability.

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Please Listen to those Nudges from God

Posted on February 6, 2017 by Dale Wilsher 5 Comments

Saturday night at church was rough.

I’ve been riding the edge of some challenging thoughts and circumstances for some time now, wondering where God was in the midst of my struggles, but on Saturday night I fell in.  I was overwhelmed by fear, anger, and hurt (all the fun emotions) and could not stop crying.  I’ve never been so thankful for the dim lighting in there.  I made it through the closing song and on my way out a dear woman, whom I’ve never met before, hands me her program.  She had been sitting behind me and must have seen me losing it.  She said, “God wanted me to give you this.”  I forced a smile, thanked her, and kept walking to the car.  I didn’t want to start crying again and you know how it is, if someone is nice to you, you can lose it even more.  I put the note in my purse and tried to pretend like I was fine.  At least until I got out of the building.

The rest of the evening was hard too.  I cried.  I journaled.  I yelled at God in my head.  I asked for understanding, for clarity, and for help. I got nothing, so finally I fell asleep.

The next day I realized that I had been a teensy bit hormonal, explaining the magnitude of my emotions, but I still wanted answers, none of which came in my sleep.  It was then that I remembered the note.  I ran downstairs, rifled through my purse and pulled out that mysterious piece of paper, hoping for something, anything to encourage me.

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Here is what it said:

“I felt the Lord prompting me to tell you, for encouragement, that you can trust Him.  He’s heard your prayers and seen your tears.  The prayers will be answered.  Keep persevering and praying.  Love, Jess”

Guess what.  I started to cry all over again.  But these were good tears.  These were I-feel-loved, I-feel-seen, I-feel-heard tears.  I had received a love note from God, written specifically for me, all because this precious woman felt a nudge from God and acted on it.

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How many times do we get nudges from God to say something, do something or write something?  If you are like me, it probably doesn’t happen all the time, but sometimes it does.  On a good day, I risk the potential embarrassment of looking like a nut, and I obey.  Other times, I ignore it and the urge goes away.

Do you know how incredibly thankful I am that Jess acted instead of ignored God’s prompting?

Do you know what a difference her obedience has made it my heart?

Do you know how much my faith has been strengthened so I can continue to persevere in prayer?

A lot.

Thank you Jess.  Thank you so very much.

 

When was the last time you were nudged by God?  Did you obey or ignore it?  Honest answers are welcome.

 

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Good News When You Are Not Ready for Christmas

Posted on December 23, 2016 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Tomorrow is Christmas Eve.
Time is running out.

So the big question is:

Have you completed everything on your Christmas to-do list? 

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Most years for me, the answer is “almost” and then I run around like crazy trying to tie up all the loose ends to make sure the Christmas spirit is palpable at my house. Some years I make it but then I am completely exhausted. Other years, like the last few, I don’t quite get everything done and end up feeling, shall we say, incomplete.

And I worry that I’m letting my children down by not doing enough to celebrate the season. I worry that I’m letting God down by not glorifying Him enough. I even feel like I’m letting the sweet baby Jesus down because there is always more I could do to herald His coming.

Do you ever feel like that? Like you’ve not done enough at Christmas time?

Keep reading for the Good News:

Good News When You’re not Ready for Christmas

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