How to Discover your Core Values

May 10, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials, Life Coaching /

In the last post, you were introduced to the Hidden Part of an Authentic Life, your core values. Your core values are the principles that are most important to you. They are the fuel that ignites you, fires you up, and propels you forward.

THREE BENEFITS TO KNOWING YOUR CORE VALUES

1. Your core values provide motivation. According to the Institute for Life Coaching Training, when we align our goals to our values, we move ten times faster toward the change we are seeking. Now that’s exciting!

2. When you label your core values it provides you with authority over your desires. This way you are in control of your values and not the other way around.

3. Knowing your core values allows for greater authenticity. When you identify what’s important to you, you’re able to make decisions that align with your authentic self instead of the opinions of others.… Read the rest

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Do you like your personality?

August 11, 2018 / Dale Wilsher / Life Coaching, Personality Types /

Can you keep a secret? I like my personality.

This isn’t easy for me to admit. First, as a born and bred good girl, I learned that it’s not polite to talk about your strengths because you might appear conceited or make someone feel bad about themselves. If I was complimented, the correct response was “No, I’m not” or “You are too” for the reasons mentioned above. It was okay for me to talk about the parts of me that I didn’t like, but it wasn’t acceptable to speak of those qualities that I did. And eventually as a practicing good girl, I lost the ability to see my own strengths.

Second, as a good girl I learned that femininity meant that I should be meek, mild and accommodating although I am not naturally any of these things. … Read the rest

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If I Were Your Personality Coach…

July 27, 2018 / Dale Wilsher / Life Coaching, Personality Types /

The first thing I like to know when I start to work with a client is their personality tendency, so I always start with a DISC test. The DISC report gives me an indication of who my client is but also how I can help.

So, what’s a DISC?

A DISC assessment is a test to determine your behavioral style. First conceptualized by psychologist William Marston (also the creator of Wonder Woman—so we love him even more) in the 1920s and later validated by a variety of training organizations, the DISC is the most widely used personality tool in corporate America with over 40 million employees tested.

The DISC reveals your behavioral style in 4 areas: Dominance (D), Influence (I), Steadiness (S), and Compliance (C).

Ds are your get ‘er done people who move fast and with authority.… Read the rest

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If I were your life coach…Part 1

July 13, 2018 / Dale Wilsher / Life Coaching /

If I were your life coach, first of all, I’d be honored that you would allow me into your life. I consider it a high privilege to be trusted with both the difficulties and the desires of a woman’s heart.

I’d also be protective of what you share with me. (As an ICF-certified coach, confidentiality is a primary concern.)

And I’d be excited to get started. I’d want you to understand who you are and what you’ve been created to do (and not do), so you can live your life to the full as quickly as possible.

The first thing we’d do is get on the phone for a thirty minute inquiry session to talk about your life and see if my coaching is a good fit for you.

I’d ask you a few questions:

What’s going on in your life right now?… Read the rest

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Is Self-Love Self-Centered?

June 29, 2018 / Dale Wilsher / Life Coaching /

As Christian women I believe we have a problem.

We are afraid.

We worry more about being self-centered than we do about being God-centered. We spend more time distancing ourselves from the appearance of selfishness leaving us less time for true selflessness. We’re so concerned that we not self-indulge, that we restrict ourselves to the point of resentment, and then don’t know where to turn.

And then there’s our self-image. Are we to hate ourselves or love ourselves? Are we miserable sinners or glorious saints? Can we be proud of ourselves or should we be oblivious or even dismissive to who we are or what we need?

I know that there are those who struggle with narcissism and arrogance, who demand attention and a focus on themselves, but as a coach to Christian women, more often than not, I talk to wonderful people who’ve lost their confidence.… Read the rest

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Isn’t Coaching Just Therapy?

June 15, 2018 / Dale Wilsher / Life Coaching /

Yes, my office has a couch.

But no, I’m not a therapist. I’m a coach.

In fact no one actually sits on my couch because all of my coaching takes place over the phone. My clients get cozy on their own couch, and they love it because they don’t have to leave their home or get a babysitter. Heck, they don’t even have to get dressed.

So how do you know if you need a therapist or a coach? I think it helps to look at a couple of important areas to see which is the right fit.

1. Focus

The focus of counseling is the past. Trained therapists help their clients look back into the pain of their past, understand them, and heal them. They diagnose and treat mental health conditions and difficult emotional experiences. … Read the rest

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What exactly is a life coach?

June 8, 2018 / Dale Wilsher / Life Coaching /

I get this question from time to time because most people aren’t really sure what a life coach is or what a life coach does.

I didn’t either before I became one.

Honestly, I thought the job sounded pretty hokey—kind of a cross between a fortune-teller and drill sergeant. It’s horrible to admit, but I thought the people who had their own life coaches were confused, weak-willed, and desperate individuals who needed someone to tell them how to live their life.

I could not have been more wrong.

As Frederic Hudson defines in his book, The Handbook of Coaching,

“A coach is someone trained and devoted to guiding others into increased competence, commitment, and confidence.”

As I started to meet some real life coaches, I found them to be impressive business owners, who had been professionally trained in the discipline of coaching, with a passion for helping others live at their fullest potential.… Read the rest

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Want to be More Authentic?

October 30, 2017 / Dale Wilsher / Authenticity & Struggle, Life Coaching /

I have a new survey that I’m using at my speaking events on authenticity in which I ask women 3 things.

In what ways are you authentic?

“I cry when I’m sad.”

“I’m upfront about my struggles.”

“In my friendships.”

“When I am honest and vulnerable.”

“when I am supporting others.”

2. In what ways are you not authentic?

“In trying to make my house look clean.”

“When I’m afraid to share things that are less than perfect.”

“When I have to have a hard conversation.”

“I hide my needs and emotions a lot.”

“I’m scared people won’t like me if they really knew me.”

3. Would you like to be more authentic?

87% of respondents answered, yes, they would like to be more authentic.

That’s a big number! The authentic life is something we all desire. … Read the rest

Hey Mom, Re-entering the Workforce?

August 28, 2017 / Dale Wilsher / Life Coaching /

Hey Mom, re-entering the workforce?

Maybe finances are tight and you have additional expenses.
Maybe kiddos are headed to college and man! is that expensive.
Maybe you’re separated or newly divorced.
Maybe you need more purpose and a greater sense of contribution.
Maybe your children are getting older and you want to be prepared to re-enter the workforce well.

Whatever your reason, the Off To Work Moms Group Coaching Program is for you!

Work with a small group of motivated moms to uncover your strengths and skills to find the perfect job for you. Group coaching is a more affordable way to get the resources and accountability you need to reach your goals AND a more interactive way to get the support and camaraderie you need to stay excited and focused. Register now to get the Early Bird Discount.… Read the rest

Know a Mom Going Back to Work?

August 14, 2017 / Dale Wilsher / Life Coaching /

Do you know a mom who wants or needs to go back to work either part-time or full-time AND isn’t quite sure where to start?

Could that mom be you?

No matter what the circumstances or reasons behind your decision, the

Off To Work Moms Coaching Program may be just what you need.

Going back to work is often a time of confusion, insecurity and difficulty. We wonder, Am I qualified to do anything? What types of skills do I have? What’s the right job for me and my family? Where do I even begin? With a little help and direction, finding the right job can be exciting, intentional, and empowering. So let’s get you started!

In this six session group coaching program you’ll learn about:

The marketable skills you already possess and how to leverage them to find meaningful work.

… Read the rest

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THREE BENEFITS TO KNOWING YOUR CORE VALUES

In what ways are you authentic?

2. In what ways are you not authentic?

3. Would you like to be more authentic?

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