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Hey Mom, Re-entering the Workforce?

Posted on 08/28/17 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Hey Mom, re-entering the workforce?

  • Maybe finances are tight and you have additional expenses.
  • Maybe kiddos are headed to college and man! is that expensive.
  • Maybe you’re separated or newly divorced.
  • Maybe you need more purpose and a greater sense of contribution.
  • Maybe your children are getting older and you want to be prepared to re-enter the workforce well.

Whatever your reason, the Off To Work Moms Group Coaching Program is for you!  

 

Work with a small group of motivated moms to uncover your strengths and skills to find the perfect job for you.  Group coaching is a more affordable way to get the resources and accountability you need to reach your goals AND a more interactive way to get the support and camaraderie you need to stay excited and focused.  Register now to get the Early Bird Discount. Coaching starts on October 23, 2017.

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Know a Mom Going Back to Work?

Posted on 08/14/17 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Do you know a mom who wants or needs to go back to work either part-time or full-time AND isn’t quite sure where to start?

Could that mom be you?

No matter what the circumstances or reasons behind your decision, the

Off To Work Moms Coaching Program may be just what you need.

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Going back to work is often a time of confusion, insecurity and difficulty.  We wonder, Am I qualified to do anything?  What types of skills do I have?  What’s the right job for me and my family?  Where do I even begin?  With a little help and direction, finding the right job can be exciting, intentional, and empowering.  So let’s get you started!

In this six session group coaching program you’ll learn about:

  • The marketable skills you already possess and how to leverage them to find meaningful work.
  • The jobs that maximize your strengths and allow you to contribute your best to the world.
  • Your unique personality type, your signature strengths, and the ideal environments in which to work.
  • Your personal values and how to align them with your work.
  • Your vision, mission and purpose and how they can direct your path.
  • Your personal network and how the people you already know can help you land a great job.

The Off to Work Moms Coaching Program consists of six group coaching sessions, 90 minutes in length, in a conference call format starting Monday 9/25/17 1:00-2:30pm MST and ending Monday 12/4/17.  The group will meet every other week and hold no more than 6-8 participants. Each participant will receive a DISC personality assessment report, two 45 minute individual coaching sessions, six 90 minute group sessions, a private FB group, tools, handouts and homework to help you get off to work.  The total cost is $499 from now until August 31.  September 1 the cost will rise to $569.

Before you assume that your only choices are to do daycare, work at your child’s school, or become the next barista (because we’ve heard about those benefits), take a little time to understand your design, your qualifications, and all the opportunities out there.  Tell your friends.  Spread the word.

You have been Uniquely Designed for Ultimate Impact!  Let’s get you Off To Work!

To reserve your spot and receive the Early Bird Discount, fill out the registration form here:

http://dalewilsher.com/dale/off-to-work-moms-registration/

Dale will contact you via email and get you signed up and ready to start.

 

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Real.Life Check Up: Health

Posted on 05/31/17 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

IMG_2390Yesterday I ran the Bolder Boulder, a 10K race, that winds through the streets of Boulder, Colorado, while bands play, belly-dancers perform, and neighbors cheer. It’s an absolute blast. And, even more important for an accomplishment-driven woman like me (I’m a Doer and a D on the DISC), it was one of my 2017 health goals.

Do you have health goals for this year? If so, have you written them down? And if you did that, do you remember where you put them?

It’s not enough to just think about your goals. Thinking engages the right hemisphere of your brain but writing engages the left hemisphere of your brain, the side that generates logic and planning.

If you want to turn your desires into reality, write down your goals. The tyranny of urgent requests from your children, your boss, and your bills will always seek to crowd out the important things in life. Don’t let them. Write your goals down.

Research show that mere act of writing down your goals increases the likelihood of achieving them by 35-70% (depending on which study you read). Those are big numbers. If you continue to review your goals each month and even each week AND rewrite them AND display them on your refrigerator, bathroom mirror or office wall, you will start to live according to your plans and not the plan of others.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

Take today’s Health Check Up Quiz. See how you score. Where you answer Yes, congratulate yourself for areas that you’ve already established good habits. Where you answer No, turn the statements in Health Goals for 2017.

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  • I wake energized, and rested, and on time.
  • I have an my exercise routine in which I move for at least 30 minutes, 3x/week.
  • I limit my alcohol consumption and don’t rely on it for stress or problem relief.
  • I drink plenty of water each day.
  • I am pleased with my food choices. They fuel me for the day.
  • My immune system is strong. I don’t get sick more than 1-2x/year.
  • I make adequate time for play and rest.
  • I know what activities are fun and restful for me.
  • I am within 10 pounds of my goal weight.
  • I take good care of myself.
  • I’m addressing all my health concerns with a medical professional.

If you answered Yes to all 11 questions, you are enjoying abundant physical health!

If you answered Yes to 7-10 questions, your life is full and whole but not all of your health potential has been realized.

If you answered Yes to 4-6 questions, you are surviving more than thriving with your health.

If you answered Yes to 0-3 questions, God has so much more health to offer you.

 

What health goals are you going to establish today?

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Real.Life Check-Up: WORK

Posted on 05/16/17 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Are you living wholly, fully, abundantly, and intentionally?

That is our question.  It’s a big one, with high standards, and wide borders.  And it’s important since this is the only life we’ve got.

In the last two posts, we’ve looked at whole, full, abundant, and intentional living in two big areas:  personal growth and relationships.

Today we will look at work.

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Are you living large in your area of service, whether you get paid or not?  Do you consider your work a job or a career? What if you could take that up a notch and think of your work as your calling?  Now, that’s something to shoot for.

60% of Christians have NO idea about their calling.  Do you know yours?

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Take this short quiz to determine how healthy you are with work:

  • I love my work.
  • My job is a great fit for me.
  • 80% of who I am lines up with 80% of what I do.
  • My income is sufficient for my needs.
  • Daily work tasks have significance because I can tie them to my purpose.
  • My work allows me to contribute my strengths to others.
  • I have a good work/life balance.
  • I see opportunities for growth and promotion.
  • I’m proud of the work I’m accomplishing.

If you answered Yes to all 9 questions, you are enjoying abundant work!

If you answered Yes to 6-8 questions, your work is full and whole but not all of your potential has been realized.

If you answered Yes to 3-5 questions, you are surviving more than thriving at work.

If you answered Yes to 0-2 questions, God has so much more to offer you through work.

 

In a 2003 study of the American workforce, only 50.7% of respondents said they’re satisfied with their current jobs.  That number had actually gone down 15% from a study just 10 years prior.

If this describes your feelings, remember God designed you for abundant work.  He has given you a calling.  You have been wired with amazing strengths to reflect a slice of His image in your home and in the world.  He wants you to use them, contribute them, and let them bless others.

If you don’t know what your signature strengths are, start by taking a DISC personality test.  Ask me how.

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Spending Time on the Skinny Branches

Posted on 05/12/17 by Dale Wilsher 2 Comments

In Morocco the goats are crazy.  Or maybe I should say motivated.  They are so into the the fruit of the argan tree that they will risk life and limb to get a taste.  Just look at them.

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At first I thought they were crazy, but now I think they are AWESOME.  They absolutely inspire me.

I’ve recently been introduced to the term skinny branches.  Have you heard that before?  Skinny branches refer to the places in our lives that we don’t feel secure.  The places that make us feel uncomfortable.  The places that scare the life out of us.

Skinny branches are the places of greatest risk.

And these crazy goats regularly head out on the skinny branches, and I want to too.

Transitioning from a stay-at-home mom to a full-time coach/speaker has required a lot of courage, energy, and hard work.  And it’s paid off.  I’m doing it, and some days I think I’m doing it pretty well.  But as I look to take my business to the next level, I’m going to have get out on some skinny branches meeting new people, cold-calling businesses, and asking for what I want.  And I’m going to have to do it everyday which isn’t easy.

You see most of us, by nature, like to play it safe.  We like our comfort zones and the security they provide.  We like things that are familiar and certain, keeping our blood pressure and stress levels low.  We like to know what to expect by maintaining a cozy status quo.  Me too.

But I also want to grow.  I want to live wholly, fully, abundantly, and intentionally.  I want to get to the end of my life and have no regrets.  I want to see just how big God is and what He can do through me.  That means that I must embrace a practice of living on the skinny branches.

How about you?

Do you need to have a hard conversation?  Do you need to learn something new?  Do you need to try something you’ve never done before?  Do you need to set a boundary?  Do you need to take action?

Then join me on the skinny branches, the place that heightens our awareness of Jesus and gives us eyes to see Him.  Just as Jesus called Peter to walk out onto the waves with Him (Matthew 14:24-32), He’s calling you to join Him on the skinny branches.  We are never out there on our own.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do something everyday that scares you” because you are held and supported by the Son of God.

What skinny branch will you go out on today?

 

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A Real Life Check-Up

Posted on 04/25/17 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

docquestionWe all know how important regular health exams and doctor visits are for the maintenance of our physical well-being. They detect problems we can’t see and provide solutions we don’t have.

But what about the rest of your life? Is it healthy? Is your Real Life the best it can be? What if there are problems you’re not aware of that could harm your heart, soul, mind or strength?  What if your Real Life could be even better than you ever imagined?

Over the next several weeks I will be providing you with a list of questions (just a few at a time, although today’s is the longest) to help you determine the health of your life.  These questions will address if you are you living wholly, with a balance in all the areas of your life, fully, in complete confidence according to your God-given design, abundantly, believing all things are possible through Christ, and intentionally, moving forward according to God’s vision for you.

Remember this promise, “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”   (John 10:10)  Don’t settle for anything less than full.

 

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Take the Real.Life.Check-Up and see how you are doing.

 

Personal Growth.

  1. I know who I am and what my strengths are.
  2. I feel confident, competent, and capable.
  3. I have weekly, monthly, and yearly goals that I’m accomplishing.
  4. I don’t speak to myself critically.
  5. I am fulfilling my mission and purpose in life.
  6. I am neither jealous or resentful (even in my private thoughts).
  7. I follow through and complete my tasks.
  8. I love who I am becoming.
  9. I have creative outlets to express myself.
  10. I live proactively rather than reactively.
  11. I am happy with the way I manage my time.
  12. I feel joyful and optimistic about the future.
  13. I am able to attend to what is important even when the urgent pressures me.

 

If you answered Yes to all 13 questions, you are living the abundant life!

If you answered Yes to 9-12 questions, you are living a full life but not all of your potential has been realized.

If you answered Yes to 5-8 questions, you are surviving more than thriving.

If you answered Yes to 0-4 questions, God has so much more to offer you.

 

How did you do?

Life Coaching offers Real Life solutions that can change every No into a Yes.   To find out more, click here http://dalewilsher.com/dale/initial-consultation-prep-form-2/ to sign up for your free 30 minute consultation.

 

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Three New Parenting Talks for 2017

Posted on 04/12/17 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

Hey MOPS and MOPSNext Moms!

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I’ve got three new parenting talks for your groups.

 

  1.  Three Life Coaching Tools for Moms:

Do you feel overwhelmed by the seemingly endless needs of your family?  Are you tired and depleted wondering how you are going to get it all done?  Do you ever feel resentful, like you are doing all the work, and you have no choice but to make it happen? Or do you feel insecure sometimes thinking that you are not good enough or something is wrong with you?  Not to worry–help is on the way–Dale will teach you about three specific life coaching tools to help each mom find balance, make wise decisions, and live confidently.

  1.  How to Raise Authentic, Responsible, and Capable Kids

From her experience as a mother to four girls and as a professional life coach, Dale will teach you the necessary elements you need to know to raise children who are authentic rather than fake, responsible rather than immature, and capable believing deep down that all things really are possible.

 3.  Overcoming Impatience as a Mom

We all lose patience with our children, but how do you stop reacting in anger and start responding in truth?  Dale explains how to deal with our emotional brains that trigger us to react defensively and usually keep us stuck in impatience.  She shows us how to engage our thinking brains to look at the reasons behind our impatience and to guide us to rational, loving parenting solutions.

 

I’d love to speak to your group!

If you’d like to book one of these new parenting talks or any of my classic messages for moms (http://dalewilsher.com/dale/speaking/) contact me here (http://dalewilsher.com/dale/contact/) for rates and availability.

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LEANING into the New Year

Posted on 01/07/16 by DaleWilsher No Comments

I am so glad that my kiddos learned to ski when they were little. It’s so much easier to learn when you are cute, daring, and oblivious to danger. Ansley did end up in SICK and SAD a couple of times since she preferred watching Dora the Explorer with hot cocoa to braving the cold winds of the Eldora Ski Resort, but she still learned.  While we don’t ski much anymore I am relieved that my children have mastered those skills so they can use them in their future.

 

Me, that is another story. I learned to ski when I was in my 20s and maybe a bit of a control freak. Skiing was terrifying because I had no muscle memory to fall back on, so I didn’t have much (read ANY) control over where I went and with what speed I traveled there. I was always afraid that I would kill someone out there and end up on the 5 o’ clock news, so I took some lessons and they helped a great deal. Today I’m a solid blue skier and when I’m feeling feisty I can even handle a black run with no moguls.

 

But those ski lessons weren’t easy. Whenever we’d approach a run that looked steeper than I my comfort zone would have liked, my poor instructors would have to remind me again and again, “Lean forward Dale, lean forward.” Are you kidding? When someone lunges at you with a knife, you don’t lean forward to get closer to the weapon. When a rabid pit bull comes barreling down the street at you, you don’t lean in to get closer to his bared teeth. So I ask you, why in the world, when facing a very steep and dangerous incline, would I, a reasonable woman who likes safety, lean forward?

 

Because skiing is for crazy people. And because as all you experienced skiers know, leaning forward is the only way to maintain balance and gain the control needed to turn, manage your speed and ultimately stop. But for us novices leaning forward seems counterintuitive because it’s human nature to want to protect ourselves, minimize the risk, and to play it safe. But if we live like that, we will never learn and grow and we will miss out on so much fun and adventure.

 

And the same holds true for life.  Leaning forward is the way to go.

 

So this is my visual for this year:

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I want to lean into this new year with courage and conviction and see where God takes me. I want to “take advantage of every opportunity” and as some versions say “redeeming the time” (Ephesians 5:16) so that I can live 2016 with meaning and purpose. I want to live with forward momentum instead of a static stance.

 

As a life coach, I know that one of the best ways to lean into the next twelve months is by setting year-long goals. This is the work that I’m doing with most of my clients right now but I also the work that I do for myself. I have seven categories that I create goal lists for:

 

  1. financial goals
  2. career goals
  3. social goals
  4. family & parenting goals
  5. health goals
  6. spiritual & personal growth goals
  7. physical environment goals

 

I have goals for saving, tithing, and investing, some that are already in place and some are going to require that I schedule in the future. This keeps me leaning into the year. I have a goal that covers two categories (family and health-don’t you love to multitask?): to run a half-marathon with my 15 year old daughter, Caroline. We chose a race in August and will start training soon. We are excited and we’re finding that we are leaning into this year because of what we have planned. This winter I want to snowshoe 3-4 times per month which helps me lean into cold weather, something that is getting much harder as I age. No wonder everyone moves to Florida when they hit the golden years. And this summer I plan to learn how to paddleboard so I’m leaning into the thought of warmer weather with a fun new activity.

 

Goals pull you into your future in a very positive way. They give you hope and allow you to anticipate what is out ahead. Goals provide the direction and vision that so many of us are lacking in our lives. All we need to do is lean forward and press on.

 

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How about you? Have you set goals for this year? Are you leaning into the possibilities for new adventures, new connections, and new accomplishments?

 

Or are you sitting back and hoping 2016 goes well? While sitting back can be a more instinctual reaction to novelty, it is not a posture that will allow you to live out your calling, get unstuck, improve a relationship, start your own business or get a promotion.   But leaning forward and upward has the potential to do all those things.

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What if this year you challenged yourself, got intentional, and leaned into the year with list of goals? Goals that pulled you out of your comfort zone and pushed you to attempt new things? And what if you accomplished a number of them? What if today you simply decided to trust and lean forward?

 

I’d love to help you craft your own set of goals for 2016 AND then help you reach them. If you’d like to try a 30 minute free life coaching session, contact me at dwskram@me.com.

 

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What’s on your mini Bucket List?

Posted on 10/12/15 by DaleWilsher No Comments

What are 10 things that you want to do before you die? Walk the Great Wall in China?  Eat Belgian waffles in Belgium? Feed a great white shark (no that’s not me although i am a certified scuba diver thanks to my very practical and currently-NOT-being-put-to-use marine biology degree)?

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Almost everyone has a bucket list of one kind or another. Some people want to become millionaires. Some want to write a novel. Some want to pay off their mortgage. That would be nice especially if I had a sponsor to help me with that one.

 

But lets face it, while most bucket list items are compelling they are also expensive, dangerous or time consuming and most of us won’t be able to pull them off especially while our children are still living at home.

 

I worked with a client who wanted to serve God in Africa (a big item on her bucket list) but since she’s a wife and mom to two elementary children, she said, “Most days I think since I can’t go to Africa, I’ll just go do laundry.” That’s a defeating thought when you have big dreams. Her comment started us on a quest to set positive goals for this mom that were both energizing and manageable within the limitations of her current life.

 

The result: the mini bucket list.

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A mini bucket list is a list of local activities that can be accomplished in short periods of time (ie.1-3 hours). They are spontaneous events so that when your spouse, mother or babysitter says “Honey, I’ll watch the kids. You take the afternoon off” you don’t have to head to Target because it’s all that you can think to do. A mini bucket list can help you achieve your smaller dreams while energizing and refreshing your parental soul.

 

Some questions to ponder in the creation of your mini bucket list:

 

  1. What energizes you? Biking, hiking, gardening, cooking? Make a list of specific activities that you could accomplish in a couple of hours. What hiking trail appeals to you? Which bike path? What recipe do you want to try? And make sure you have all the ingredients or equipment on hand.

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  1. What have you always wanted to do? What are you curious about? I drive by a road on the outskirts of town and every time I wonder, Where does that go? I put it on my bucket list. Or whenever I go to Costco I spend all my time shopping for the food on the periphery and wonder, What mysterious stuff can you find in the middle of the store? So that’s on my bucket list too.

 

  1. What do you long to do by yourself? Stroll through an art gallery, wander around a bookstore or an outdoor mall, paint your own pottery, get a free makeover at Sephora, take a yoga class, or rummage through a flea market?   The list is endless but it should be energizing and fun. And write your list down on paper. A goal is only a wish, and less likely to be achieved, until you write it down.

 

  1. Who would you love to serve? What causes are you passionate about? Since Africa doesn’t qualify for the mini bucket list, what local ministries or charities can you help out when you have the chance? Jesus’ ministry never took him more than 30 miles from his hometown. We don’t have to go far to share our hearts or live our dreams.

 

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“Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity…” Ephesians 5:15-16

 

What’s on your mini bucket list?

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Life Coaching Monday: GO PUBLIC

Posted on 06/15/15 by DaleWilsher No Comments

Today I started a 14 Day Detox Cleanse. I haven’t done one of these in years. It’s 3:28pm on Day 1 and I’ve already eaten more kale than I have in my 48 years AND I had to take a nap. I guess I needed some detoxing more than I thought.

 

The truth is that I don’t know if I can complete this thing. I need to eat differently than I normally do which means I have to constantly be thinking about what I will eat and making sure I won’t eat the wrong thing. I have a little bowl of those awesome dark chocolate pomegranate candies

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sitting on my desk and without thinking I almost popped one in my mouth an hour ago. Ugh!!! It’s hard to override habits. And it’s not fun to be constantly pondering my next meal. And I don’t really know if I can sustain this level of focus on food (or lack of it) while trying to work while my kiddos are home all day.

 

As a life coach I have learned that motivation is the fire that drives us toward our goals and helps us persevere when times get tough (like dinner time, or lunch time or snack time).

 

So, I am employing a motivational technique to keep me accountable:

 

Make your goal public.

 

If you really want to make a change, overcome a habit, or grow in a new direction then tell someone about it. Tell lots of people. Text them. Post it on FB or Twitter. I opted for FB, both on my personal and my business pages, as well as this blog. And now I have a whole cheering section–a group of people who can encourage me, share their war stories, and push me—all because they I made my private cleanse into a public goal.  And there is something in me that doesn’t want to let you down.  I want to inspire you to reach your goals by sticking with my own.

 

Make sure everyone in your home knows what your goal is. Put a sign on your refrigerator that states what you are going to do.

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(This is another motivational trick to phrase your goal in a positive light describing what you will do rather than what you won’t do. (ie. I will drink tea after dinner is much better that I will not eat ice cream.)

 

Ask one or two people to be your sponsors. We can learn a lot about reaching goals from groups like AA who have helped millions of people make significant changes through the accountability of relationships. Ask a friend to check on your progress daily or weekly or better yet, send them regular reports. My sponsor is doing the cleanse with me so we are in this together.  Just knowing that she will ask me about my goal everyday can provide the needed motivation when I am feeling weak, tired, or craving a Coke Zero.

 

What goals do you have this summer?

Do you want to grow your business, spend more quality time with your children, learn to paddle board, or set some boundaries with those you love but who might be driving you just a little crazy?

 

 

If you really want to accomplish your goal, I dare you to make it public.

And then tell me about it.  I’d love to encourage you instead of thinking about all the fun foods I will no longer be eating.

 

If you want to bump up your accountability to the next level, consider hiring a life coach to help you reach your goals.  I’d love to work with you!

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