Today I am feeling shabby. Not shabby chic. Just Shabby. It just seems like everything in my house and my car is either filthy (like my carpets which I was told by our local carpet cleaner was the worst he’s ever seen. Really? Really! That is not a contest I ever wanted to win.), messy (like the garage floor, cubby room, and every light switch plate in my house), broken and in need of repair (like two of my sprinkler heads which are making my yard dry out and look extra shabby especially with all those weeds that are now coming up), worn (like my ottoman that I have to cover with a throw blanket or the wrinkles that are forming on my legs of all places. Is there no mercy?), and of course outdated (which I am reminded of every time I step foot in my guest bathroom during a commercial break for Fixer Upper on HGTV. Gosh I love that couple. Why can’t I live in Waco and buy a house for $25,000 that Chip and Joanna Gaines would transform into a million dollar home all in 60 minutes?)
I know. I’m in a shabby mood. I don’t live like this all the time, but when it hits, it really takes me down. And I know that the mess mostly exists because I have children that fill my house and according to those cute chain emails I’m really going to miss it one day, and of course I wouldn’t trade in my children for new carpet or TV remotes with backs, BUT I’d like to feel a bit less shabby or at least have it not diminish me like it sometimes does.
I realized this morning that I have a shabby mindset. I see the mess, not because that’s all that’s there, but because it is my focus. A mindset is a habit of the mind that predetermines a response to a situation. So my shabby mindset has me inclined to see what is broken, filthy, and worn, judge myself for it, and miss all the rest.
But what I have learned as a life coach is that mindsets can be changed. Thank God for that! The human brain with its amazing neuroplasticity can change and transform at any point along the way. So I asked God this morning to change my shabby mindset.
He led me to look up antonyms for shabby and I found words like bright, clean, fresh, and new. I like those words. I’d like to live in an environment just like that. In fact I’d like to live in a body that feels just like that. And according to scripture, I do. And you do too.
- we too may live a new life. Romans 6:4
- Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 2 Corinthians 5:17
- to be made new in the attitude of your minds; Ephesians 4:23
When we decide to follow Jesus AND everyday after that, we are bright, clean, fresh, and new. We have a new life. We are a new creation. And we have a brand new attitude. Every single day. No matter what our age, stage, or condition of our family room.
And then this verse just jumped off the page at me:
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. 2 Corinthians 4:16
There was my answer: instead of a shabby mindset, I want a renewal mindset.
Renewal is defined as the replacing or repair of something that is worn out, run-down, or broken and according to the apostle Paul in that verse to the Corinthians that is just what is happening to me and you. While my outside might be rotting like a compost pile, you and I are being replaced, repaired and renewed on the inside.
This is how one commentator put it:
“that while the one perishes, the other is renewed;
while the one is enfeebled, the other is strengthened;
while the one grows old and decays, the other renews its youth and is invigorated.”
Barnes Notes on the Bible
So today I choose to have a renewal mindset.
I will consciously focus my attention on that inward parts of me that are gaining fresh energies at the rate at which the outward parts of me and my stuff are breaking down. In fact the more break down that occurs on the outside, the more I can be assured that I am being renewed on the inside.
So if you drive by my house or step onto my carpet and think, that’s a little shabby, you might be right, in fact you probably are BUT the inside of me–my heart, soul, mind and spirit are brand spanking new and getting newer everyday. I think Chip and Joanna would be impressed by the makeover God has completed in me.
Do you need a RENEWAL MINDSET today?
If you are stuck in a negative mindset and would like help transforming into a positive outlook on life, contact me at DWSkram@comcast.net. I’d love to work with you.