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Real.Life.Relationship Check-Up

Posted on May 1, 2017 by Dale Wilsher No Comments

How’d you score on last week’s Personal Growth quiz? Take it here, if you haven’t already.

To be honest, most of us don’t score very high.  In a world that is chaotic, confusing, and overwhelming, it’s not easy to live intentionally and with great clarity.  Not many of know what our strengths are although we are certain of our weaknesses.  I have yet to meet a person that is free from their inner critic voice.  And almost every one of my clients has wanted help understanding their mission and purpose.  Research shows that at least 60% of Christians don’t know their purpose or their calling.  In my experience that number is much higher.

If you are feeling brave and curious, check out the next section of the


to determine the quality of your Relational life.



  • I rarely over-apologize, share TMI, or people-please.
  • I don’t believe I need to be all things to all people.
  • My friendships are characterized by mutual respect, mutual sharing, and mutual need.
  • I am able to say NO easily.

Spouse/Significant Other

  • I feel fondness and admiration for my spouse.
  • My spouse and I are aware of and encourage each other’s strengths, needs, and values although they are different from our own.
  • We encourage each other’s emotional and spiritual growth.
  • We are growing closer everyday.


  • I feel adequate, supported and equipped as a parent.
  • I have a vision for my children’s future.
  • I understand my children’s unique personality and emotional needs.

Family of Origin

  • I am at a healthy place with my family of origin.
  • I can and do honor my parents.
  • I have forgiven any past acts.
  • I don’t blame my family for my issues or problems today.


If you answered Yes to all 15 questions, you are living the abundant life!

If you answered Yes to 11-14 questions, you are living a full life but not all of your potential has been realized.

If you answered Yes to 6-10 questions, you are surviving more than thriving.

If you answered Yes to 0-5 questions, God has so much more to offer you.


A life that is whole, full, abundant, and intentional does not come without some work.  Without work, we drift.  DriftingThe 2nd law of thermodynamics states that entropy will increase over time.  That means that without intervention, our lives will drift into disorder.  Don’t let that happen to your life and the purposes that God has called you to.  You’ve been created to glorify Him as you reflect your slice of His image.

Get intentional.  If your score is not as high as you’d like, reach out for help to someone who can guide you to a better place.  Envision what you’d like to accomplish.  If you consider yourself a people-pleaser, spend time defining what you’d like to be instead.  Would you rather be a God-pleaser?  Make a choice to think of the possibilities instead of the past.  Your brain cannot look at the problem AND the solution at the same time, so get active and look toward your goal.

If you would like to find out how life coaching can help you with your personal or relational goals, complete this form for a free 30 minute phone session.


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