Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
Are you task-focused or people-focused?
Which does God think is better?
Listen in while I explain these four personality categories and what God thinks of them.
If you want help understanding your authentic personality type, let’s talk. We can schedule a free 30 minute call to discuss your questions and your type here. If you want to take a DISC test and determine your own type, click here.
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Can you keep a secret? I like my personality.
This isn’t easy for me to admit. First, as a born and bred good girl, I learned that it’s not polite to talk about your strengths because you might appear conceited or make someone feel bad about themselves. If I was complimented, the correct response was “No, I’m not” or “You are too” for the reasons mentioned above. It was okay for me to talk about the parts of me that I didn’t like, but it wasn’t acceptable to speak of those qualities that I did. And eventually as a practicing good girl, I lost the ability to see my own strengths.
Second, as a good girl I learned that femininity meant that I should be meek, mild and accommodating although I am not naturally any of these things. … Read the rest
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If I were your life coach, first of all, I’d be honored that you would allow me into your life. I consider it a high privilege to be trusted with both the difficulties and the desires of a woman’s heart.
I’d also be protective of what you share with me. (As an ICF-certified coach, confidentiality is a primary concern.)
And I’d be excited to get started. I’d want you to understand who you are and what you’ve been created to do (and not do), so you can live your life to the full as quickly as possible.
The first thing we’d do is get on the phone for a thirty minute inquiry session to talk about your life and see if my coaching is a good fit for you.
I’d ask you a few questions:
What’s going on in your life right now?… Read the rest
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As Christian women I believe we have a problem.
We are afraid.
We worry more about being self-centered than we do about being God-centered. We spend more time distancing ourselves from the appearance of selfishness leaving us less time for true selflessness. We’re so concerned that we not self-indulge, that we restrict ourselves to the point of resentment, and then don’t know where to turn.
And then there’s our self-image. Are we to hate ourselves or love ourselves? Are we miserable sinners or glorious saints? Can we be proud of ourselves or should we be oblivious or even dismissive to who we are or what we need?
I know that there are those who struggle with narcissism and arrogance, who demand attention and a focus on themselves, but as a coach to Christian women, more often than not, I talk to wonderful people who’ve lost their confidence.… Read the rest
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I get this question from time to time because most people aren’t really sure what a life coach is or what a life coach does.
I didn’t either before I became one.
Honestly, I thought the job sounded pretty hokey—kind of a cross between a fortune-teller and drill sergeant. It’s horrible to admit, but I thought the people who had their own life coaches were confused, weak-willed, and desperate individuals who needed someone to tell them how to live their life.
I could not have been more wrong.
As Frederic Hudson defines in his book, The Handbook of Coaching,
“A coach is someone trained and devoted to guiding others into increased competence, commitment, and confidence.”
As I started to meet some real life coaches, I found them to be impressive business owners, who had been professionally trained in the discipline of coaching, with a passion for helping others live at their fullest potential.… Read the rest
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Wow! What an honor to be the speaker at Family in Christ women’s retreat at the beautiful Mount Vernon Country Club in Golden.
We spent the entire day talking about what I consider to be one of the most important spiritual disciplines and the foundation of our relationship with God, abiding.
Abiding is “to keep up a habit of constant close communion with Him-to be always leaning on Him, resting in Him, pouring out our hearts to Him, and using Him as our foundation of life and strength, as our chief companion and very best friend.”
Based on scripture in John 15, Matthew 11 and Psalm 46 we looked at the reasons we don’t abide (such as our expectation that God won’t speak to us or our desire to life for God instead of with God, plus many more.) We learned how to talk to God and how to hear His voice. … Read the rest
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How many times lately have you tried to make someone like you? or not be mad at you? or think highly of you? Come on now, be honest. More than you’d like? Me too.
People-pleasing or image management is a problem for most women because we were made for relationship. We need connection with those around us. Connection is the food that nourishes our spirit and soul. It’s the fuel that powers our mood, our energy, and our health. It’s the source of our spiritual, emotional, and physical life. Connection is the reason that Jesus came to Earth and died on the cross. It’s even the answer to that compelling question, Why am I here? Life is all about connection.
But we get tripped up when we think that connection only happens when people are happy with us, when we comply with their wishes, or when we don’t disappoint them.… Read the rest
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Am I the only one?
Ever ask yourself that question? Ever feel like you are the only one who struggles with an issue or a particular problem?
This happens a lot when you live in the land of I’m-fine-ville. Lots of women live there, especially women in the church. They hide their unloving thoughts and ugly emotions. They don’t talk about the jealousy or insecurity they feel. They put on a pretty faith-filled exterior and mask the turbulence below the surface. I’m fine might be my biggest pet peeve with the Christian community.
And this is what I hate: when you live amongst the I’m-finers for too long, you start to believe, sadly and wrongly, that you are the only one with your issue.
Feeling like you are the only one is a crime, committed by Satan, perpetrated on God’s children, and intended to steal our sanity, kill our relationships and destroy our hearts.… Read the rest
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