Have you ever been to a wedding that was so elegant and beautiful that it felt like you had died and gone to heaven? Were you in awe of the bride’s perfect dress, the romantic wedding vows, or the detailed ceremony program? Did you marvel at the gorgeous chair adornments and personalized table cards which complimented the elegant wedding favors? Were you blown away by the multitude of small but significant touches? And did it make you feel like a real loser because your wedding looked nothing like this?
Don’t worry. Nothing is wrong with you. You just had the privilege of seeing a Planner in action. Planners, Perfect Melancholies, “Cs” Conscientious on the DISC Model, are beautiful women with a God-given ability to think ahead and attend to the details of most any event. It’s not the devil that is in the details; it’s the Planner. These women think of everything because their brains can hold so much information and process the minutia. This talent makes them great accountants, decorators, writers, composers, engineers, doctors and lawyers. Think Martha Stewart.
Planners are theatrical, literary, musical, artistic, or poetic. They are our rock stars, actors, painters, photographers, singers, and musicians such as Pat Benatar or Angelina Jolie. They are cultured and serious. So serious in fact, that sometimes they forget to smile, like Kristen Stewart and Victoria Beckham. They make their kids play the violin, because the recorder is for Entertainers. They read classic literature instead of In Style magazine. They go to the theater, the real theater, not the one that is showing the new Hunger Games movie (btw which I cannot wait to see).
Planners are deep and thoughtful and champion causes such as homelessness, world hunger, poverty, modern day slavery, and animal extinction. There would be no World Vision or Compassion International, organizations which care for children around the world, without the compassion of Planning women. Planners are concerned about the problems with Ebola while Entertainers are writing stuff like this:
The Planner loves order which puts her in good company. “For God is not a God of disorder but of peace.” 1 Corinthians 14:33 Her house actually looks like Crate & Barrel, and not just when she knows you are coming over; it looks like that all the time. If you are wondering who buys those 32-Compartment Drawer Organizers to systematize their socks and underwear, the Planner does. She loves the beauty that order and the Container Store bring to her world.
Planners are private women who think before they speak. They are constantly embarrassed by their Entertaining husbands (since we usually marry someone of the opposite temperament) and all the personal information that they share publicly. The Planner prefers to work behind the scenes using her skills to make her family, her organization or the world a better place. Also known as the perfecter, she can start to get down on herself for always seeing things negatively, and yet Jesus is a perfecter, (“the author and perfecter of our faith” Hebrews 12:2) too. A perfecter Planner has the ability to not only identify problems but to finish them as well. Planners get to work alongside God as they bring things back to life.
There is so much to love about our Planners. They bring deeper meaning into our shallow worlds. They force is to consider the wrongs that need to be righted. And they keep our check books balanced. Let the Planners in your life know that you see and appreciate their unique beauty.
In the next post, we will look at the weaknesses of the Planner, her emotional needs, and what Planner moms and kiddos look like.
Some of my Planner clients have wrongly believed that their strengths were boring and unimpressive, and not knowing how to live a fulfilling life maximizing those talents. If that sounds like you, contact me at real.life.coaching. I’d love to help you see the beauty of your design and start to use your God-given skills for His glory.
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