Authenticity is a hot topic these days.
Because it’s hard to find.
Authenticity is often buried under Instagram filters, push-up bras, and plastic smiles. It’s lost in unexpressed feelings and unspoken thoughts. It’s obscured by our good girl efforts to be nice and polite. It’s distorted by the pressure every woman feels to have it all together.
And yet most of us would say that we long for more authenticity in our lives. In my survey of moms with young kids, 94% said they wanted to be more authentic. That’s a lot. These women long to be free to share what is true about themselves without pretense, performance or perfection.
This is the humility of authenticity. It’s a vulnerable acknowledgement of what is real in your life right now. It’s what I call your little “t” truth.
This is your stark-naked, raw self, warts and all. To be humbly authentic is to admit in public what you’ve been hiding in private. When you’re humbly authentic you can confess the stuff that you’d never put on your resume or your FB page: your unpopular opinions, your ugly thoughts, your anger, anxiety and depression, your weaknesses and fears, your inner critic worries, your lack of joy, or the time you lost it in Target when the dressing room attendant rifled through your cart and threw your stuff away (that might just be me).
It takes real courage to bow low like this. As Brene Brown says in Daring Greatly, “Vulnerability looks like courage in you, but feels like inadequacy in me.” Remember this, the next time you worry about being humbly authentic.
But there’s a second part of authenticity that most of us miss. This is your big “T” truth, the nobility of authenticity. It’s a proud recognition of what God promises is true about you.
Noble authenticity involves embracing all the potential infused into your design and the greatness He’s imparted to you. As a woman created in His image, you’ve been given a slice of God. Your personality reflects some of His greatest attributes. You’ve been crafted with a unique set of values, desires that God has knit into your heart. You’ve been wired with a distinct purpose seen in your mission, vision and calling. According to Ephesians 2:10, you are God’s masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus, for good works.
This noble stance grants you permission to mount your high horse (the one you’ve always been told to get off), to sit up tall, and to ride.
Know who you are. You are a unique creation.
Be proud of who you are. God made you in His image.
Share who you are. Let the world see God in you.