If I were your life coach, first of all, I’d be honored that you would allow me into your life. I consider it a high privilege to be trusted with both the difficulties and the desires of a woman’s heart.
I’d also be protective of what you share with me. (As an ICF-certified coach, confidentiality is a primary concern.)
And I’d be excited to get started. I’d want you to understand who you are and what you’ve been created to do (and not do), so you can live your life to the full as quickly as possible.
The first thing we’d do is get on the phone for a thirty minute inquiry session to talk about your life and see if my coaching is a good fit for you.
I’d ask you a few questions:
What’s going on in your life right now? I’m a mom. I’m a nurse. I’m an engineer. I’m going through a divorce. I’m in a rut. I’m stuck. (I hear” I’m stuck” from 90% of the women I talk to.) I’m not using my gifts or living up to my full potential. I’m overwhelmed. I can’t decide what to do.
What would you like to be different? I want to feel like I’m making a difference. I want to love what I do. I want better friendships and a healthy marriage. I want to know I’m doing what God wants me to be doing. I’d like to have a plan for my future. I want to be more intentional and less of a people pleaser.
What will get in the way? Overthinking. Procrastination. Negative thought patterns. Netflix. (Darn Netflix.)
How might coaching be useful to you at this time? It could help me define my strengths and passions. Clarify God’s direction. Help me find my dreams and my purpose. Give me a fresh perspective. Provide the accountability I desperately need.
One of the main goals of an inquiry session is to help you see the possibilities before you. To help you begin to envision the life you want. To infuse hope and momentum into what has been a stagnant place.
If you want to do this on your own or help a friend or loved one with an issue they want to address, you can ask the “miracle question.” This is a question designed to help you move beyond your problem and into a solution because we don’t do this naturally. We usually stay focused on the problem, trying to figure out what went wrong (overusing the analyzing part of our brain), which is why we feel stuck. Instead, if you consider the life you’d like to have in the future, (accessing the creative part of your brain), you can generate new ideas, new possibilities and create momentum toward change.
Here it is.
The Miracle Question:
Assume that tonight you went to bed, and before morning a miracle occurred so that when you woke up, your problem was solved and everything you wished for had taken place. How would things be different?
At the end of our time together, as I do on each call, I’d ask you,
What’s your takeaway? While I can’t predict what you would say in that moment, here are a few phrases that I hear time and time again.
I’m excited again.
I feel hopeful.
Change is possible.
If life coaching sounds like something that interests you, click here, to set up your inquiry session. It’s free. It’s fun. There’s no obligation.
In Part 2 of this blog series, If I were your life coach, I’ll tell you what we do next.