Summer, which is a wonderful break for some people ie children, strikes fear in the heart of mothers because now they are single-handedly responsible for all the structure, feeding, entertaining, connecting, and educating that is usually shared with a lunch lady, a handful of teachers, a bus driver, a gaggle of friends and a librarian. Gulp. And most moms that I know (including myself) feel guilty about that fear because they love their children, want to enjoy the extra time with them while making great memories, but with the sun up from 5am-9pm, moms tend to get a wee bit tired, and then their kiddos invite all their friends over who mow through food like a plague of locusts, and then those children get bored and start to whine and want to go to Target to spend their parent’s money, all while mom is trying to get a few things done. When this cycle is repeated day in and day out, mothers end up reactive instead of proactive and not the women that they want to be.
So what’s a mom to do with summer?
Paint a picture. Picture what you want your summer to look like.
Research shows that your brain cannot look at a problem and a solution at the same time, so instead of focusing on the difficulties from last year, envision your perfect summer. What are you doing? Going on day trips or big trips? Hosting gatherings at your house or relaxing at your neighborhood pool? What are you and your family in need of most? Have you always wanted to plant a garden? Do you want to paint the family room?
What would you really like to DO this summer?
Make a list and then rank that list. Pick your top three priorities to focus on at one time because we can easily overcommit at the beginning of the summer and then feel overextended and defeated by the end. Ask each member of your family to make their own list. Be reasonable but have some summer goals. Put the leftovers on your fall list so they aren’t procrastinated but instead slated for a more appropriate time.
And then envision who you would like to do these activities with.
WHO do you want to spend time with this summer?
Your children? Old friends? New neighbors? Extended family?
Typically summer is a more relational time of year so make goals for community and connection. Prioritize developing and growing relationships into your summer TO DO list. In whatever way you sow relationships in the summer, you will reap the benefits throughout the year.
One of the best ways to do this is to use TIME BLOCKING. Here’s an example.
Sit down today and time block your calendar according to your goals.
You can schedule individual time with each of your children for reading, summer school work, or playing their favorite game by giving them a 30 minute block of time once, twice or three times per week. You can block out work time each week so those tasks get accomplished and not relegated to 10pm when life finally slows down. You can schedule quiet time for you and the kiddos after lunch to provide a pause for rest throughout the day. You can make Tuesdays pool day or field trip day or whatever. You can block Mondays as errand mornings.
Time blocking is a great way to be proactive about your time instead of simply reacting to the demands around you. It can allow you to live your purpose instead of someone else’s. Time blocking keeps the urgent (tasks) from crowding out the important (relationships). It is a great tool to help you live the vision of your summer.
What are some of your summer goals?
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