How to Overcome Negativity and Lies

November 6, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials /

The Happiness Advantage

The Happiness Project

Hardwiring Happiness

Positive Intelligence

These are all titles of books on my bookshelf because 1. I’m into positivity, 2. I’ve needed help to overcome negativity and 3. because happiness is trending these days. Currently there are over 40,000 books about happiness listed on Amazon. The fact that I only have four makes me feel a little less like a junkie.

Positivity is a brain thing. It’s about changing the way you habitually think.

When Isaiah says, God’s “thoughts are not your thoughts,” (Isaiah 55:8) he wasn’t kidding. More often than not, your thoughts are nowhere near God’s thoughts, because His thoughts are higher, superior, and absolutely beyond you. Me too. As the apostle Paul says, they are “true, …noble, …right, …pure, …lovely, …admirable, …excellent and praiseworthy (Philippians 4:8).… Read the rest

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The Lies That We Believe

October 11, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials /

The scariest movie that I can remember from my childhood was the 1979 thriller, When a Stranger Calls. It wasn’t the storyline that made the movie so memorable since it followed the classic pattern of a girl stalked by some crazy killer. Nothing new there. What haunted me about this flick was the closing line.

Before we go any further, I need to point out that cell phones did not exist in 1979. We had something called home phones, known today as landlines. If you were lucky you had the modern push button feature, but us average folks had to endure the rotary (dial up) phone, aka slow as sludge.

Back to the story.

In the final scene of the movie, our heroine, the girl being stalked, is babysitting for a young family, at night, of course.… Read the rest

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The Truthful Part of an Authentic Life

August 23, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials /

As someone who works from home and often on the phone, I’m not normally that concerned about my appearance. I can wear pajamas all day or do coaching calls in my cozy, ratty t-shirt and shorts. I don’t have to wear makeup, so I rarely do, and my hair is often greasy.

Last week I had to make a couple videos: one for an upcoming speaking event and another for a Tedx application. On those days, I took a shower, put on makeup, curled my hair. I thought about the clothes I’d be wearing, because I wanted to know, Would they give off the vibe I wanted to share? I wanted the whole ensemble to say, “I’m knowledgeable, insightful, and entertaining.”

When I’m putting a lot of thought into my look, I’d like to believe that I’m thinking of others: making them feel comfortable, showing them respect, and helping them feel confident about hiring me.… Read the rest

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How to Embody a Full Range of Emotions

July 31, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials /

Today in my hot yoga class there was a woman standing in the front row who was ridiculously happy. She had this smile, a very big, toothy smile on her face, the ENTIRE class. I’m not kidding. It lasted the whole hour.

When I first noticed her, I smiled too. After all, smiling is contagious. But within five minutes it just got weird. And plastic, because she didn’t seem real.

A one-dimensional expression of emotion, even happiness, isn’t authentic. No one is happy, that happy, all the time. Especially in hot yoga.

GOD MADE US WITH EMOTIONS

God made us with a full range of emotions. He gave us sadness, gladness, and madness.

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance. … Read the rest

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The Emotional Part of an Authentic Life

June 21, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials /

Several years ago, I was checking in to my very hot yoga class, when I overheard two teachers behind the desk talking about emotions. One of them said with complete confidence, “I can always tell what people are feeling. If I don’t see it on their face, I can smell it in their sweat.” Then she glanced my way and said, “especially anger.”

Why was she looking at me? Did I have angry sweat? I had been in her class before so she might have caught a whiff of me. Holy cow.

I suddenly felt shame and embarrassment. What if I was walking around reeking of anger? What if they were talking about me, the angry one, in the yoga break room? What if they knew something about me that I didn’t even know?… Read the rest

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