How to Embody a Full Range of Emotions

July 31, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials /

Today in my hot yoga class there was a woman standing in the front row who was ridiculously happy. She had this smile, a very big, toothy smile on her face, the ENTIRE class. I’m not kidding. It lasted the whole hour.

When I first noticed her, I smiled too. After all, smiling is contagious. But within five minutes it just got weird. And plastic, because she didn’t seem real.

A one-dimensional expression of emotion, even happiness, isn’t authentic. No one is happy, that happy, all the time. Especially in hot yoga.

GOD MADE US WITH EMOTIONS

God made us with a full range of emotions. He gave us sadness, gladness, and madness.

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance. … Read the rest

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The Emotional Part of an Authentic Life

June 21, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials /

Several years ago, I was checking in to my very hot yoga class, when I overheard two teachers behind the desk talking about emotions. One of them said with complete confidence, “I can always tell what people are feeling. If I don’t see it on their face, I can smell it in their sweat.” Then she glanced my way and said, “especially anger.”

Why was she looking at me? Did I have angry sweat? I had been in her class before so she might have caught a whiff of me. Holy cow.

I suddenly felt shame and embarrassment. What if I was walking around reeking of anger? What if they were talking about me, the angry one, in the yoga break room? What if they knew something about me that I didn’t even know?… Read the rest

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How to Use Your Core Values

June 10, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials, Life Coaching /

As an added benefit for newsletter subscribers (thank you!), I’d like to offer you the Core Values Worksheet that I use with my clients and show you how it works. You can download the PDF of this chart straight from the June Newsletter. This is a private blog just for you and has not been posted publicly.

Before you use this chart, I recommend that you read The Hidden Part of an Authentic Life and How to Discover Your Core Values to create your top ten core values list. Once you have all ten in prioritized order, you are ready to use this chart.

Let’s look at two clients, Mary and Martha, to see how they’ve used their values list to lead a more authentic life.

FOR LIFE ALIGNMENT:

Mary is feeling stuck in this season of her life and doesn’t know why.… Read the rest

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The Hidden Part of an Authentic Life

April 24, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials /

I had a wonderful coaching client, we will call her Bethany. One of Bethany’s goals was to live more authentically in her relationships. (I just love that.)

When she would describe a particular situation with someone in her life, I would ask, What are you hoping for here? or when she would recount a difficult dynamic, I’d inquire, “What is it that you want from this person?

To each of these questions and others like them, Bethany would always reply,

“God’s will. I want God’s will.”

Now that’s a great answer for any Christian because our life is about following Christ and letting Him rule and reign, but in this case, it seemed like a smoke screen. Sometimes the right answer is a cover for a deeper problem we don’t know how to address. … Read the rest

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The Beginning of an Authentic Life

February 15, 2019 / Dale Wilsher / 8 Authenticity Essentials /

This post begins a series of blogs, each describing one of the Eight Essentials of Authenticity.

This week I’m reading Holy Ambition by author and pastor, Chip Ingram. Today, in chapter 6, I read this, “One of the most amazing things that I have discovered in the last twenty-five years as a pastor is how few people understand how God made them.”

I couldn’t agree more Chip. That’s why I’m passionate about teaching people about their personality.

What is Personality?

While God made you and me in His image, He does not want any of us to “make ourselves (myself, in the actual verse) like the Most High.” That is how Satan is described in Isaiah 14:14. As humans we were not designed to be everything to everyone, like the Most High.… Read the rest

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